“It hurts like he’s holding on to a piece he tore out of my heart. It hurts physically, just a dull ache in my stomach,” is what a woman describes feeling after experiencing love in a relationship.
While some cry all day because they’re bound by memories that keep them in the past, others describe the feeling as grief.
So, why does love hurt so much?
It doesn’t. Love does not hurt at all. We say love hurts when our definition of love has been distorted.
Ending a relationship, disappointment, and heartbreak hurts but not love. We associate it with love because it happens inside a relationship.
This is how love feels
True love always looks out for you. It’s demonstrated in action and words. True love endures because it’s selfless. It has nothing to do with the butterflies in our stomachs or a sensual feeling. Neither does it develop as we’ve seen in romantic movies, where sexual attraction is staged and seen as the best moments in a relationship.
Love is pure. It doesn’t hurt. The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8:
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
True love is found in God, the one who is love. When we experience and learn about the kind of love He offers, we can love others as well. We won’t put high hopes on a person that is bound to fail us. The only one that will never let us down, forsake or abandon us, is God.
Why love is important…
Now that you know that love doesn’t hurt. Let me invite you into experiencing the love you deserve. A love you are worth having because he sees you as beautiful and worthy. This love intentionally will love you forever.
To accept this love, you must simply accept his love by inviting God into your life.
Prayer to know God
Dear God, I am heartbroken. I feel this ache in my stomach and in my heart. It feels as if someone tore my heart out. I surrender this pain to you, and cry before you. I ask you to forgive me for putting my hope in the wrong person. I trust that everything will work for my good, even when I can’t see it right now. I accept your love. I love you, Lord. I want to experience love that is patient, kind, a love that protects, trusts, hopes, a love that never fails. I accept you into my heart, and I accept that you sent your only son Jesus Christ to die for me. Because of that, I can now experience your love like never before. In the name of Jesus, Amen.